Post-Breakup Support
Everything reminds you of the person who isn’t your person anymore.
You keep staring at your phone hoping they’ll text. But also scared that they’ll text.
You’ve resisted the temptation to reach out a hundred times, and you lie awake at night thinking about what you wish you said or didn’t say when you had the chance.
You’re terrified of how long you might have to go without cuddling or sex, and the idea of getting back on the dating apps makes you want to throw your phone out the window on the highway.
Occasionally a friend invites you to a party or a show or something that doesn’t sound terrible. But it’s awkward and sad and annoying. You never really liked going to social events alone.
You reach out to friends and family sometimes for support. They’re kind and reassuring and do their best to say helpful things, but it so often falls flat. Sometimes they say things like “I know this is hard, but I really think you’ll find someone.” And that’s nice, but somehow just doesn’t really help. Besides, you don’t want to burn them out or weigh them down.
Yes, the way through is to “feel your feelings.” But you need more support for that.
Probably you’ll tell me some stories. You know, that fight you keep thinking about or the first time you kissed them or that horrible look on their face while you were having the breakup conversation. Some of them you’ve told before. But also, they’ve gotten distorted in your mind and there are places where you need to be reminded that what you did and said and didn’t do and didn’t say make sense.
And all the things you did and said and didn’t do and didn’t do… they make sense. You make sense. I promise.
The more you can let it happen, all of it, and the more you can feel it, the more joy and alchemy you can find. But you need a container for that, and you need support. You don’t have to do it alone.
Let’s talk.
